I will say at once that the only psychological way to stop loving a person is only active self-injury. And it should be noted that to put a doom on your own feelings it should be your conscious decision, not spontaneous, not an attempt to see what will happen as a result, but a strong willed decision. In addition, it is necessary to know a few rules that will help to make this process fast and least painful.
What do you mean by "quickly"? You need to set aside time for daily practice of at least one hour a day for at least 3 weeks. During this time, when you will be engaged in active self-hypnosis, trampling your own feelings, maximizing the speed of their demise, you should not be distracted from the process. The most common mistake of women who want to stop love in themselves is the lack of regularity and methodicality, the allocation of time for this process. 21 days is the minimum amount of time for daily practice. If you miss even one day, start counting again. And "minimum" does not mean 100% achievement of the effect, sometimes it takes several months, especially for beginners.
In self-hypnosis, a very important rule is the construction of suggestion formulas. Never use a suggestion that begins with the words "I want to...".
Your task is to influence your feelings, to stomp on them with your own feet. This is not just a "want", it is an active action. Be sure to call yourself by name, and with maximum emotionality, rude and unpleasant forms of your own name. For example, you can use phrases such as:
Irka, hate it!
- Iriha, stop loving!
- My, Irihina's feelings, gasp!".
My, Irkina, love, stop!
Hate, be born in my, Irihina's, heart!
Compulsion should be carried out only in the form of orders and commands directed at one's heart, body, subconsciousness. Sometimes it is possible to use formulas of the present tense, but the main thing is not to abuse them, for example:
My, Irkin's, heart stops loving!
My, Irihina's feelings are suffocating in my heart!
- In my, Irina's, heart, hatred is born!
In this whole process it is necessary to concentrate as much as possible and represent the face of the ex, all your strength and energy to direct to these feelings. If there is his photo, you can put it on the floor and put your feet on it, tensing them as much as possible, it will help to strengthen the impact. You can trample a soft toy - a plush heart, if you have one in the process. The words of suggestion should be spoken aloud or at least whispered, but not scrolled in your mind. This is also a common mistake, when phrases are not spoken and thought out, their effectiveness is reduced many times. If the face of the ex leaves the thoughts, it is necessary to bring it back.
It is not necessary to go into a trance state during such self-injury, but it is better if you know how to do it. All your efforts should be directed only at yourself. Do not use suggestion formulas related to it. You are only affecting your feelings. For example "get out of my thoughts", "get out of my heart" - these are wrong formulas, because they refer to another person and therefore will not work. You are addressing only yourself and affecting only yourself.
If you have a close friend or, for example, a sister, she can also help you, provided that you are willing to open yourself to her suggestion and that she has the ability and power to suggest that you stop feeling. In this case, the suggestion of the friend should also last about an hour. And it does not cancel and does not replace your process of self-compulsion, but can only accelerate the result - getting rid of unnecessary love. For this purpose you need to enter a state of trance in front of your friend, and your friend should suggest and order you at this moment according to the same principles that were described above, calling you by name, giving you commands. You can also help your girlfriends in the same way. The main thing is to concentrate on the process and make a conscious effort to achieve the result.
The more emotional the process, the better. Don't hold back, scream if you want to, cry if you want to, clench your fists, tense your feet as hard as you can, stomp as hard as you can on a picture or a plush heart.
The less you hold back, the faster the results will come.
And most importantly, you need to believe in success, set yourself a goal and move towards the end of the process, realizing that there is no turning back. You should not give up on self-hypnosis halfway through, even if it seems that everything has worked out. For example, after a week you think that the effect is achieved, but if you stop, then after a while the feelings may come back with even greater force. Continue this process for three weeks, even though everything seems to be over. And remember that there are no sweet pills. In psychology, it's always like this: the more unpleasant and difficult the methods, the more effective they work.
Best wishes for success in getting rid of the feelings as soon as possible!